Opponents of gay marriage are keeping their powder dry after California’s legalization this week. Why? Well, because it’s tough to be angry at scenes like these weddings. Smiles, laughter, flowers…these people are being captured on the happiest day of their lives, and their joy is absolutely infectious. After all, some of these people have been waiting for decades and decades to get married. Nothing makes a better case for gay marriage than gay marriage itself. I’ve said before, and I’ll say it again: we’re gonna have to repeal Virginia’s ban on gay marriage in a few years, and we’re going to feel like jackasses for having to do it.
Thanx, Waldo! I’ll be there with you when the movement to repeal gets underway.
My partner (legally married in Virginia for 15 years) and I will be there to help repeal this stupid and illogical amendment too.
Virginia is always so behind the times…..will my home state ever get it together and finance the educational system so we can catch up with the rest of the world.
I feel like I’m living in a fourth world country here in VA.
Here, here Waldo!
I never have been able to figure out how the fact of two people in love could possibly threaten my family as the homophobes would have us believe. Looking forward to the day when our politics catch up to our reality – happy healthy families come in many varieties (as do miserably unhealthy ones… just sayin’).
Shayna, I completely agree. In fact my partner and I owe the success of our marriage in part due to the intervention and good counseling from our gay friends when we had a brief period of uncommunicative trouble.
So in our case our marriage was saved by having gay friends who helped us through a difficult time.
Personally, I think we should just outlaw marriage entirely. It’s an outdated patriarchal system based on ownership and capitalist property laws. The fact that the government essentially bribes people to participate in it, and the fact that people’s families blackmail them into going along, is completely unacceptable to me.
Don’t get me wrong; If people want to make their own agreements between themselves, religious or secular, with or without the consent of their families and their community, then that’s just fine with me; but I don’t think the State should be involved in any way.
But here’s the catch: I don’t think we should outlaw government-endorsed marriages until AFTER gay marriage has been legalized in all 50 states.
If the state didn’t recognize marriage, then legal battles over property rights, inheritance, child support, child custody and a billion other things that states’ recognition of marriage help clarify would become pandemic and a hundred times more nightmarish than they already are. Marriage isn’t outdated, you’re just used to it.
There’s also the question of international couples. I’m not sure what “personal arrangements” could be made that would convince the respective governments of each respective partner’s right to reside there.
Eventually Virginia will be forced to do the reasonable and right thing and just accept gay marriages as a matter of fact. We’ll all benefit from that recognition.
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