The confidence of being correct.
I had a mini epiphany this week.
I don’t dread this gay-marriage amendment working its way through the Virginia General Assembly. I don’t particularly fear its effects. My fundamental opposition to just a nasty little constitutional amendment is only a small part of my opposition to it.
No, my real problem is that it’s annoying.
We’re just going to have to deal with getting rid of the damned thing in a few years.
Opposition to civil unions is not a whit different than opposition to interracial marriage. I recently spotted a comment on a Virginia blog (which I won’t link to or name the author of, because I mean no ill will towards the author, and because the author only discussed gay marriage) in which I will replace mentions of sexual orientation with race:
There are plenty of surveys about the promiscuity of black men demonstrating that their activities are order of magnitude more promiscuous than whites. And notwithstanding the political agenda of legitimizing interracial “marriage,” there are surveys demonstrating that those demanding to enter into it have no intention of making the life-long commitment which marriage is supposed to be. Say what you will about the tattered state of real marriage: most people enter into it with at least the intention of being “’til death do us part.” The same cannot be said of negroes.
The tiny percentage of people who remain opposed to interracial marriage generally have the good sense to keep their mouths shut, because they have learned that their beliefs are not only wrong, but also hurtful to interracial couples and bad for society.
The same lesson will come for opponents of civil unions. If two people want to establish a contract between them establishing basic lifetime agreements (property sharing, the right to make medical decisions for one another, joint custody of children, etc.), that’s their business. Likewise, government has no business whatsoever regulating the sacraments of religious institutions; the state can no more tell a church what two people can marry any more than they can dictate who takes communion or receives last rites.
So we’re going to spend a lot of time and effort into passing a constitutional amendment to ban something that’s already illegal, only to have the state collectively slap itself on the forehead in 5-10 years when everybody realizes what assholes they’ve been. The religious right will realize that they’ve opened the door to having Christianity regulated by government, while true conservatives will realize that contractual rights have been dealt a huge blow. And then we’ll need another constitutional amendment, which will take another couple of years and cost a whole lot more money. In the meantime, we’ll needlessly marginalize 5-10% of the state’s population and quite likely create some huge headaches and heartaches for thousands of people.
I’m not speculating that this will happen — I’m certain that it will happen. It’s as certain as the end of slavery, women getting the vote and the end of Jim Crow. Freedom, as President Bush likes to say, is on the march. (Recall that President Bush is a supporter of civil unions.)
So fine, ban same-sex civil unions. Have at it. We’ll all just sit around and twiddle our thumbs until people come around in a few years, and then we’ll have to fix it.
Dicks.
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